7 Mental Habits That Work — Until They Get In Your Way

Knowledge is knowing something, wisdom is knowing when and how to use it

Something I discuss often with my coaching clients is the importance of taking even the best advice with a grain of salt. There is no behavior, no trait, no habit, that leads to success 100 percent of the time — in fact, certain mindsets work well until they become the very things that get in your way.

Achieving anything meaningful in life — from a concrete goal to a general sense of well-being — requires an awareness of this paradox. When you know that even the qualities and practices we consider desirable, like the seven below, are not purely beneficial, you can rely on them when they are helpful and leave them behind when they are not. Wisdom is knowing when to do which.

Grit

The ability to grind toward a goal — and to stay focused on that goal when the going gets tough — is a key element of success (and, for that matter, of a life well lived). That said, sometimes we can over-glorify perseverance, sticking with something simply for the sake of sticking with it, even if we no longer find value or pleasure in it.

In those cases, the right thing to do is to quit. As David Epstein pointed out in his book, Range, if we rely too…